My husband is so useless, and all he does is play video games.
Seriously again? Why does he think he can come and go as he pleases!
There are times when we get caught up in the moment and we share our emotions on social media or with a group of friends. What happens sometimes is that one woman will share about how the other day her husband was late coming home from work, he didn't call and he didn't remember to stop at the store, and when he came home he didn't put his shoes and clothes away properly, and then he sat down and played video games. Or some variation of the story. The woman, who presumably had worked hard all day, felt very unappreciated by her spouse and let him know. The other women who are listening then chime in with stories of how bad their husbands are and how they wish they would act.
Let's think about this for a second. What if the situation was reversed and you found out your husband and his friends got together and blasted their wives, sharing all the times we forgot or did not do something or overreacted?
I don't know about you, but I mess up. I make mistakes. I get caught up in doing work and forget to do the dishes. I would prefer to watch my show or read a book to doing laundry. And after a long hard day the first thing I want to do is relax.
I never thought I'd have to write a piece like this, but it is really weighing heavy on my heart lately. Our husbands mess up, but so do we. Our husbands do things that we think are not so smart, but I do not so smart things too. The point is, we all mess up. Shower your husband with grace and love because that is what you would want him to do to you.
As wives we need to agree to stop. Just stop ever talking poorly about our husbands. It makes me so sad when I am with friends or I am on social media and hear or see someone talking poorly about their husband. It is rude, disrespectful, and self-sabotaging. And it needs to stop now. It needs to stop here.
Agree today to stop and apologize to your husband if you have done it in the past.
Here are some questions to ask yourself before discussing the situation with someone else:
- Am I genuinely asking for help? Or am I just venting?
- Am I asking a person I trust who can remain objective?
- Have I prayed about it?
- Have I talked about something great my husband has done recently?
- Am I calling my husband names (like idiot) when telling someone else the story?
- Will telling someone else actually benefit my marriage relationship?
- Have I discussed this kindly with my husband?
- Is this conversation private or is this on social media for everyone to see?
Remember, husbands and wives are on the same team. They are partners. They are to work together in everything. Supporting each other, edifying one another, helping the other person achieve great things and become an even better person.
Let's agree to not talk poorly about our husbands. Simple as that.
Comment below and agree to join with us in keeping our marriages strong by building up our husbands.